Imagine, for a moment, that a significant portion of the population believed, based on your looks, that if they encountered you in public, you owed them a dollar. These people are total strangers to you, but they believe fervently that any time they see you in public, you are obligated to give them a dollar. They’re willing to make polite conversation with you in the hopes that you’ll willingly give them the dollar, but if you don’t they’re willing to follow you down the street and bug you about it until you fork it over. And if even that doesn’t work, they’re constantly scheming for ways to pick your pocket or steal your stuff in order to get the money that is rightfully owed to them by you and everyone who falls into the category of people like you who have spurned their dollar-seeking advances over the years.

After a lifetime of this, you’d likely be super-annoyed and out of patience with these people, wouldn’t you? You’d (rightfully) suspect anyone who tried to chat with you in public of just trying to get their dollar out of you. You might even be afraid of most or all strangers, because you know that they’re going to harass you until you hand over your money, and some of them may even get violent. But you’d still have to go out in public sometimes, to work or to buy groceries, and every time you did, someone would try to chat you up or put their hands on you in order to get their dollar. And every one of them would probably say, “why is that guy so angry and nervous? I’m only asking for a dollar, and that’s not very much money, and if I take it out of his pocket without him knowing, he probably won’t even notice that it’s gone.” Because they wouldn’t be thinking about the thousands of times before that someone has asked you, pestered you, forced you to give up your dollars. They’d only be thinking about themselves, and their need to have their wallets filled by dollars from people like you.

I realize that this may be hard to imagine, but this is the reality of life for many women. A substantial portion of the population believes that they have a right to a woman’s attention, and if they don’t get it, they get offended, mean, and sometimes even violent. You’re just one of many, many men who believe that any woman you like owes you something. It’s exhausting and sometimes terrifying to be on the receiving end of that. If your goals involve, in any way, getting this woman to like you or making her happy, your current actions are diametrically opposed to achieving that. And if you’re not concerned with the comfort and happiness of other human beings with whom you interact, I suggest that you get some professional help to determine why you view women you like as walking ATMs of attention for you.

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This dollar metaphor, l can’t stop thinking about it.

Now imagine you refuse someone a dollar, because it’s yours and you don’t owe them anything. They get angry, threatening, even violent. You tell people about it, and are told: “Well, you should’ve just given them the dollar! What’s the big deal, it’s not that much money. Can’t you just be nice?”

Now imagine you do give some people a dollar, if they ask nicely. Some go away. Some assume that means you owe them a hundred dollars. Someone tries to take all your money, and hurts you. When you try to report them for robbery, you are told: “Are you sure you didn’t *want* to give them the money? I mean you *did* give them a dollar, everyone saw you. Everyone knows you’ve given out dollars to other people before. You really expect us to believe a guy who gives away his dollars like that? Oh, you were just being nice? Well maybe you should’ve thought about how that would look.”

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thepolyglotdream:

‘Learning Russian has given me a whole new life’

Mary Hobson: It took me about two years [to read War and Peace]. I read it like a poem, a sentence at a time.

English writer and translator Mary Hobson decided to learn Russian at the age of 56, graduating in her sixties and completing a PhD aged 74. Now fluent in Russian, Hobson has translated “Eugene Onegin” and other poems by Pushkin, “Woe from Wit” by Griboyedov, and has won the Griboyedov Prize and Pushkin Medal for her work. RBTH visited Hobson at home in London to ask about her inspiring experience. 

RBTH: Learning Russian is difficult at any age, and you were 56. How did the idea first come to your mind? 

 Mary Hobson: I was having a foot operation, and I had to stay in bed for two weeks in hospital. My daughter Emma brought me a big fat translation of War and Peace. “Mum, you’ll never get a better chance to read it”, she said.

I’d never read Russian literature before. I got absolutely hooked on it, I just got so absorbed! I read like a starving man eats. The paperback didn’t have maps of the battle of Borodino, I was making maps trying to understand what was happening. This was the best novel ever written. Tolstoy creates the whole world, and while you read it, you believe in it.

I woke up in the hospital three days after I finished reading and suddenly realized: “I haven’t read it at all. I’ve read a translation. I would have to learn Russian.” 

RBTH: Did you read War and Peace in the original language eventually? 

M.H.: Yes, it was the first thing I read in Russian. I bought a fat Russian dictionary and off I went. It took me about two years. I read it like a poem, a sentence at a time. I learned such a lot, I still remember where I first found some words. “Between,” for instance. About a third of the way down the page. 

RBTH: Do you remember your first steps in learning Russian? 

 M.H.: I had a plan to study the Russian language in evening classes, but my Russian friend said: “Don’t do that, I’ll teach you.” We sat in the garden and she helped me to remember the Cyrillic script. I was 56 at this time, and I found it very tiring reading in Cyrillic. I couldn’t do it in the evening because I simply wouldn’t be able to sleep. And Russian grammar is fascinating. 

RBTH: You became an undergraduate for the first time in your sixties. How did you feel about studying with young students? 

M.H.: I need to explain first why I didn’t have any career before my fifties. My husband had a very serious illness, a cerebral abscess, and he became so disabled. I was just looking after him. And we had four children. After 28 years I could not do it any longer, I had break downs, depressions. I finally realized I would have to leave. Otherwise I would just go down with him. There was a life out there I hadn’t lived. It was time to go out and to live it.

I left him. I’ve been on my own for three years in a limbo of quilt and depression. Then I picked up a phone and rang the number my friend had long since given me, that of the School of Slavonic and East European Studies, London University. “Do you accept mature students?” I asked. “Of sixty-two?” They did.

When the first day of term arrived, I was absolutely terrified. I went twice around Russel square before daring to go in. The only thing that persuaded me to do it was that I got offered the place and if I didn’t do it, the children would be so ashamed of me. My group mates looked a little bit surprised at first but then we were very quickly writing the same essays, reading the same stuff, having to do the same translations. 

RBTH: You spent 10 months in Moscow as part of your course. How did you feel in Russia? 

 M.H.: I hardly dared open my mouth, because I thought I got it wrong. It lasted about a week like this, hardly daring to speak. Then I thought – I’m here only for 10 months. I shall die if I don’t communicate. I just have to risk it. Then I started bumbling stuff. I said things I didn’t at all mean. I just said anything. The most dangerous thing was to make jokes. People looked at me as I was mad.

I hate to say it, but in 1991 the Russian ruble absolutely collapsed and for the first and last time in my life I was a wealthy woman. I bought over 200 books in Russian, 10 “Complete Collected Works” of my favorite 19th-century authors. Then it was a problem how to get them home. Seventy-five of them were brought to London by a visiting group of schoolchildren. They took three books each. 

RBTH: You’re celebrating your 90th birthday in July. What’s the secret of your longevity? 

M.H.: If I had not gone to university, if I had given up and stopped learning Russian, I don’t think I’d have lived this long. It keeps your mind active, it keeps you physically active. It affects everything. Learning Russian has given me a whole new life. A whole circle of friends, a whole new way of living. For me it was the most enormous opening out to a new life.

@flamande

Isn’t this the sweetest thing ever? I wish there were more stories like this!

Omg I want to be like this woman when I grow up. She’s phenomenal.

look it’s an article from the future about @czarinamischa

Fimsy’s 2016 Reading List

…I could have sworn I did one of these already…

The bolded ones are titles I’ve already read before at some point. I want to reread them because it’s been awhile and I have a (probably) better perspective from which to approach them.

  1. Aftermath: Martin Bormann and the Fourth Reich, by Ladislas Farago
  2. Alfred the Great: Asser’s Life of King Alfred and Other Contemporary Sources, by Anonymous
  3. Angel On The Square, by Gloria Whelan
  4. Around the World in Eighty Days, by Jules Verne
  5. Beowulf, by Anonymous
  6. Better for All The World, by Harry Bruinius
  7. Brave New World, by Aldous Huxley
  8. Child 44, by Tom Rob Smith
  9. City of Dark Magic, by Magnus Flyte
  10. Dead World Omnibus
  11. Don’t Stop me Now, by Jeremy Clarkson
  12. Ender’s Game, by Orson Scott Card
  13. Eragon, by Christopher Paolini
  14. Flowers In The Attic, by V.C. Andrews
  15. Girl With the Dragon Tattoo, by Stieg Larsson
  16. Hamlet, by Shakespeare
  17. Harry Potter Series, by J.K. Rowling
  18. Here On Earth, by Alice Hoffman
  19. Hiroshima, by John Hersey
  20. House of Leaves, by Mark Z Danielewski
  21. I’m A Stranger Here Myself, by Bill Bryson
  22. Journey to the Centre of the Earth, by Jules Verne
  23. Julius Caesar, by Shakespeare
  24. Life of Pi, by Yann Martel
  25. Lolita, by Vladimir Nabokov
  26. Me Talk Pretty One Day, by David Sedaris
  27. Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil, by John Berendt
  28. Modern Germany, by V. R. Berghahn
  29. Official Secrets, by Richard Breitman
  30. Only Revolutions, by Mark Z Danielewski
  31. Othello, by Shakespeare
  32. Reckless Hands, by Victoria Nourse
  33. Rocket Boys, by Homer H. Hickam, Jr.
  34. Roman Civilization, by J.P.V.D. Balsdon  
  35. Sex Race and Science, by Edward Larson
  36. Shutter Island, by Dennis Lehane
  37. Sleeping Murder, by Agatha Christie
  38. Some Girls: My Life In A Harem, by Jillian Lauren
  39. The American Warrior, by Chris Morris and Janet Morris
  40. The Awakening, by Kate Chopin
  41. The Bell Jar, by Sylvia Plath
  42. The Best Short Stories of Dostoyevsky
  43. The Casual Vacancy, by JK Rowling
  44. The Confessions of Saint Augustine, translated by Rex Warner
  45. The Green Mile, by Stephen King
  46. The Gunslinger, by Stephen King
  47. The Handmaid’s Tale, by Margaret Atwood
  48. The Help, by Kathryn Stockett
  49. The Historian, by Elizabeth Kostova
  50. The History of the Franks, by Gregory of Tours
  51. The Hobbit, by J.R.R. Tolkien
  52. The Hound of The Baskervilles, by A. Conan Doyle
  53. The Hunger Games, by Suzanne Collins
  54. The Iliad, by Homer
  55. The Kindly Ones, by Jonathan Littell
  56. The Monster of Florence, by Douglas Preston
  57. The Nazi Hunters, by Neal Bascomb
  58. The Oster Conspiracy of 1938, by Terry Parssinen
  59. The Outsiders, by S. E. Hinton
  60. The Paris Wife, by Paula McLain
  61. The Phantom of the Opera, by Gaston Leroux
  62. The Picture of Dorian Gray, by Oscar Wilde
  63. The Rook, by Daniel O’Malley
  64. The Scarlet Letter, by Nathaniel Hawthorne
  65. Things Fall Apart, by Chinua Achebe
  66. Torchwood: The Men Who Sold The World, by Guy Adams
  67. Void, by Rhiannon Lassiter
  68. Water For Elephants, by Sara Gruen
  69. Wicked, by Gregory Maguire
  70. World War Z, by Max Brooks
  71. Madame Bovary, by Gustave Flaubert
  72. Darkly Dreaming Dexter, by Jeff Lindsay
  73. Dexter in the Dark, by Jeff Lindsay
  74. The Exiled Heir, by Jonathan French

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drakeimpala:

everyone is aware bernie is still running right. like he never dropped out. he is still here

in all seriousness i feel like those Hold Your Nose, Close Your Eyes, Bite Your Tongue and Vote For Hillary 2k16 posts are all good intentioned and i will probably be saying the same after the convention, but i don’t think people realize how damaging they can be RIGHT NOW, while he’s STILL IN THE RACE, when the core of his entire campaign is his supporters being enthusiastic / donating / volunteering / sharing information about him. he already has so much working against him in terms of biased media coverage, election fraud, etc., and seeing posts like that can be really demoralizing and make people give up on him when he needs them more than ever — i know bernie is a longshot but if anything, with trump officially being the official nominee now, we should be encouraging people 2 rally behind bernie even more and help ensure he has the most delegates he can possibly get going into the convention because he is a surefire way 2 stop trump, seeing as he has proven himself as a candidate who can gain the support of independents who are so critical for the general election

Not to mention, Hillz is headed for murky waters. X